Stuffing and compartmentalizing feelings instead of dealing with them leads to them rattling around in your head. (Imagine buying a bunch of soda at the market and not wanting to unload, it, so you leave it in the trunk and it just rolls around, making a racket each time you drive somewhere). Generally, the things we “stuff” fall into two categories, anxiety and anger. The first step is to know your monkey mind can be tamed. You can learn to control your racing thoughts and develop healthy habits for dealing with unpleasant emotions and events.
Dialectics are opposing forces. You can find peace when, instead of fighting the way things are, you find balance in opposing forces. There are many examples of opposing forces that you encounter each day.
It can be difficult to balance all the competing priorities—work, family, exercise, other “adulting.” Here are a few tips to help you find more balance. 1. Create a calendar and block out the must-dos, 2. Combine, 3. Simplify, 4. Sharpen the saw…
1. Thank it. Anger is your body’s way of saying that there MAY be a threat of some sort. Anger often protects you from fear (Fight or flee). 2. Make a choice about the best way to use your energy to get closer to your goals….